I am a single parent, with a son who's suffering from MAJOR REJECTION by his biological father, Elijah Maxey, Jr. AKA JOBBA. I have chosen to do this blog, because of the suffering, pain, and illness this level of rejection has caused him and the ones who love him. The way I see it, is that there is NO EXCUSE for rejecting your own child. Jobba has many, but none of them are valid reasons for not returning the Love that his son, Kyle, is trying to give and get. Since I can remember, Kyle has always verbally communicated his strong desire for his Daddy...only to receive rejection in return. I have offered Jobba the option of no child support order in return for just being an active father to his own son. He refused. When Kyle was 11 years old, I got a child support order. Jobba will not even call his son on his Birthdays. When my son turned 17, Jobba did not call Kyle. Kyle told me, "he (Jobba) is the only man on this Earth that I love; I just don't understand why he don't love me back!" We cried together, and I apologized for his pain and my mistakes. He waited up all night for his father to call him, but he never did. I even called Jobba and asked if he could please call his son, and he lied to his mother by saying he did call Kyle. My son has dealt with this treatment for a long time, and also has to deal with the display of love and affection Jobba shows his stepson, Tavon....whom Kyle has grown to hate. Jobba has another child, and he treats her a just little bit better than Kyle.
No longer able to cope with the pain of rejection, my son began to abuse drugs. Initially, he only had emotional and behavioral problems, but it grew into uncontrollable anger and rage. My son is getting treatment, but nothing can take the place of his Earthly father in his life, loving as hard as needed, and supporting his son through unconditional love. KYLE POURED HIS HEART OUT TO JOBBA, CRYING AND BEGGING FOR JOBBA'S LOVE, BUT HE WOULDN'T EVEN HUG HIS SON OR REASSURE HIM THAT HE DOES LOVE HIM....ALL HE DID WAS SPIT VENOM ABOUT ME! I have begged Jobba to just see if he could pretend to love his son for his son's benefit, and HE STILL WILL NOT DO ANYTHING TO SHOW THAT HE EVEN LIKES HIS SON.
So many of our children suffer like my son, and so many parents suffer like me. The deadbeat parent gets away with attempted murder, neglect, and abuse. I say attempted murder, because this is killing our children......our FUTURE. Our children are commiting suicide and homicides because of this empty void in there lives....little direction......little hope. A missing parent is very dangerous for our children, but the rejection is FATAL!
